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How To Overcome Obstacles When Buying Your First Home
What To Do When Things Go Wrong When You’re Trying To Buy Your First Home
If you totally prepare when you’re getting ready to buy your home, is that going to ensure that you’re going to have a smooth contract, an escrow period? No, dream on. Escrows and buying contract periods are like life. You can prepare all you want, but lots of things are out of your control. Let’s talk about it.—
I’m back after a little bit of an extended absence. I understand that shows live in eternity and if you’re bingeing these episodes sometime in the future, then that doesn’t make any sense to you because you went from episode 24 to 25 without a break. No time has passed. For those of you living in the now, living in the moment, if you’ve been missing me and you’ve been reading the blog in chronological real-time, you might’ve been wondering where I’ve been. First of all, I did not give up on my mission to treat you, first-time buy home buyers, with the respect that you deserve. I did not decide to change everything up, I decide to screw it. I’m going to be like the rest of the real estate industry and put all of my efforts into begging people to let me sell their homes. That way, sucker buyers like you are going to come crawling to my listing, come to my doorstep and then I can screw you over. A listing agent, they’re going to tilt all the negotiations to the seller because that’s the person who hired them in the first place. They’re the only real clients that most people in the real estate industry care about. I had a pretty serious family emergency. It’s a hell of a story. I will segue from my horror story and we’ll discuss how you can overcome obstacles when you’re trying to buy a home. This is going to be very important information for you. I have to thank each and every one of you out there reading this. Thank you so much to the readers out there. I started this show to see if I could help people that were being ignored. It turns out that the answer is a resounding yes. Lots of folks feel ignored. While I’ve been away taking care of my family, the response to the show has been astounding. It’s been flabbergasting. It’s been mind-blowing. As of now, I’ve connected 32 readers with unicorn agents in their specific neck of the woods all over the country to help them on their journey to buy their first home. Some of them, we are not even close to buying. We’re starting at the very beginning, the planning stages, talking to people a few years out. While I was away, I had been getting three to four different readers each week that have been reaching out to me on Instagram, on Twitter even, through the Facebook page and email me directly going right to my website. They’ve been reaching out and they’ve been looking for help. Seriously, three to four a week while I was away, I’m blowing up.Crappy 30 Days
The difference between me blowing up and some of your favorite stars blowing up is I don’t get a platinum record or a big TV deal out of this explosion. All I get is tons of rad people all across the country getting the guidance they deserve without getting the shaft from the rest of the crappy, greedy realtors who look down on you first-time buyers. Thank you and I hear you. I get it, you’re hungry. I’m dedicated to keeping this thing going. This show is going to keep rocking and keep reaching out to all you folks. It’s been a rough time here. Knowing that I had a mission to get back to you and the tons of people all across the country who are counting on me, it really helped push me through. Thanks to you. What’s the big mystery? What’s been going on? What’s been going on is I had a crappy 30 days. Let’s start where my 30 days ended. I totaled my car, got run off the road, crashed and hit a couple of different sidewalls, but I’m fine. There is no stress and no drama. My ribs hurt a lot, which is tough in my world because I like to laugh. Besides that, I’m good. Thank you, airbags. How you handle adversity will actually define who you are. Click To Tweet How did my 30 days start? This is where it all began. At the beginning of this 30-day-period that I had, my thirteen-year-old son and my wife were attacked by a pit bull and we had a pretty scary situation. They were parked in our neighborhood and walk into our front door. There were kids playing outside and this pit bull that lives in our neighborhood, but we never see out for a walk was out for a walk that day. The person walking the pit bull lost control because he started to jump up. When he broke free, when she fell down and let go of the leash, he attacked my son. The pit bull started chomping on my son’s arm and then chomping on my son’s leg. My wife being the badass mama bear that she is, starts smacking the dog with her purse. Let’s say that pissed the dog off. He then attacked my wife, bit on the stomach really hard. She’s got lots of cutting and tearing there. Unfortunately, it jumped up on her and knocked her down. When she fell on the ground, it jumped on her chest and went to go bite her in the head. She turned her head and the dog ripped her entire left ear off. I was inside the house with my daughter. I heard the screaming and the commotion outside. We rushed to the hospital. They tried to reconnect the ear, four-and-a-half-hour surgery. It didn’t work. My wife does not have her ear. The weird thing is what they do is when they try to reattach it, if it doesn’t attach, they need to save that cartilage in case you want to do a reconstruction, rebuild the ear later on. They need to save it someplace while the area heals. They need to save it someplace where the cartilage can grow. They stick it in your body. Sometimes they put it in your arms, sometimes they put it in your leg. These guys decided to stick it in the back of her head. Tina doesn’t have an ear, but she does have an ear inside underneath her scalp. It’s a really weird situation. Her hearing’s fine and Daniel’s fine. The bottom line is this could’ve been a heck of a lot worse. There were kids playing out there. There were three kids under three years old that was in the neighborhood twenty feet away from this dog attack. When the dog jumped on Tina’s chest, it was going for her face. This could have been her eye, could have been her cheek. It could’ve been her jugular. That could’ve been the instinctual move from the pit bull.Expect Adversity Despite Thorough Preparation
That’s where we are. My family has been trying to figure out what we’re going to do with this and how we’re going to move forward. My wife is a being a killer trooper surviving with one ear and we’re getting ready to figure out if we’re going to reconstruct her, do a prosthetic ear. That’s where I’ve been. As I was preparing to come back to the show, I wasn’t really going to talk about this then I realized that the car crash happened exactly 30 days after the dog attack on my family. It hit me. The universe was giving me a big fat sign. Suddenly, every rough escrow that my buyers have ever been through came to my mind. Good people who prepared and sacrificed so that this gigantic endeavor would be the happy event that it should be. They did everything right. They were feeling good. That’s how I felt when my 30 days started. I changed my career a little bit and got to help you guys out. Things were going great and then life happened. I had a crazy 30 days like an escrow or a contract period. Sometimes even though most prepared buyers have a crappy escrow, no matter how much you prepare, it could end up being 30 days of sheer torture. If you don’t prepare, your odds of that are much higher and it will probably be even worse. Sometimes even if you read this blog and you go onto my website at DavidSidoni.com and you read every single blog and you follow everything to the letter, even you follow all the lessons. Even if you save all of your cash, if you stick all your moola under your mattress and you’ve got a ton of money going into your contract period. Even if you’re the guy who makes all the sacrifices while all your friends are out spending their money going YOLO. They’re living their best lives and that you sit at home eating mac and cheese so you can watch your savings account grow so you can have a really good home buying experience. Even if you’re a person who does reach out to me and we hook you up with a badass unicorn realtor, the magical, mythical, unbelievable, incredible combination of a real estate agent who gives a damn about you and is also experienced and knows what the hell they’re doing. They can work with the first-time buyers the rest of the industries thrown away. Even if you do all those things and you prepare and you do everything right, sometimes your contract period, your escrow period is going to be 30 days of hell. Deal with that fact. It might happen. Metaphorically, this happened to me. That was my 30 days of an escrow hell and it’s not my fault. I’ll explain to you why you need to prepare for that.
Solutions To Adversities
Think a few months from now when all this stuff is a distant memory and you’re sitting at home. If you want to picture yourself sitting at home with tons of Excel spreadsheets and a craft beer, whatever it takes. Emotional people think analytical. Analytical think emotional. Get yourself out of the negative thoughts. Don’t wallow in the problems. Everyone goes through this. You’re going to go through it and you’re going to get to the end. If you wallow in your problems, you’re going to make a bed in that swamp of misery and live in misery swamp. Focus on what you have, not what you don’t at any given moment. Focus on the end result and realize that getting there might not be fair. It might not be just, you might have to make some sacrifices and it’s up to you to decide, “Do I want to make the sacrifice to get into that dream home?” Most of the time the answer is yes. If there’s a $50,000 problem with the roof and the plumbing, bail, but most of the time you’re going to push through. That’s the way it is when you’re buying a house from one random person. That’s a fact you need to accept now so that it’s easier to swallow later on when you’re really invested in the buying process. If you’re one of the unfortunate people to get into a deal for your dream home with that jacked up seller or the bad listing agent. One thing that my family learned in our crisis is that if you’re doing everything right, if you’re taking the right steps, if you’re on the right path in what you’re trying to do in life, people are going to notice and you won’t be alone when something wonky happens. I can’t believe the outpouring from the community. It’s been incredible for me, my wife and my kids. People are naturally empathetic and they’re going to feel for you if you’ve been doing all the right things. They’re going to be watching you do that and if something bad happens, they’re going to feel empathetic. You get a weirdo on the other side of the deal, they’re going to feel bad for you. Good people who have done good things to get where they are like you buying a freaking home, that’s responsibility. You always get the benefit of the doubt and if you feel alone, ask for help or advice and you may find out you’re wrong. Your family, your friends, your coworkers, your unicorn realtor and your lender are all going to be on your side. Let’s get crazy. Let’s say you don’t have a solid relationship with family, your friends or your coworkers and you actually are alone. You feeling alone going through this process, you are already my hero. You choose to do these things. You have chosen to read this blog to better yourself. You’re already so far ahead of the other people taking for granted maybe their support groups. You are not alone because I’m in awe of you and I’m here for you. If we get you a great unicorn realtor, they’re going to be able to help you get your mind right and get you through the journey. I know it’s thinking, “I don’t, but I know what you might be thinking,” or that’s the words I use to segue. Maybe you’re thinking, “What’s it sound like? Why do I sound like a motivational speaker all of a sudden? What’s with all the Tony Robbins’ mind over matter crap?” It is because too many buyers out there get into buying a home. If you’re under 40, you’ve lived a large part of your life with a smartphone in your hand. You’re used to getting everything and getting all the answers. I feel bad. I’m going to use the word, but brace for it. Sometimes younger consumers at this time are a little bit entitled. I know I used the dreaded E word. I’m a horrible old man who doesn’t understand how things work.
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